As we are in the height of the holiday season, many individuals and families face the complexities of divorce, which can be especially challenging during this time of year. As family law attorneys, we see many people struggling with emotions during this time of year. While we are not therapists and do offer mental health advice, we do believe many people benefit from seeing therapists and engaging in self-care.
1. Psychological Impact on Adults: The holiday season, often synonymous with joy and togetherness, can amplify feelings of loneliness and grief for those going through a divorce. It is often beneficial to acknowledge these emotions and seek support. Engaging in therapy or support groups can provide a safe space to process feelings and develop coping strategies.
2. Psychological Considerations for Children: Children may struggle to understand the changes in their family dynamics during the holidays. They may feel torn between parents, especially if traditions shift. Reassuring them of your love and commitment can help reduce anxiety and foster resilience.
3. Financial Implications: Divorce can bring significant financial strain, and the holidays often add extra pressure. Clients going through a divorce often consider discussing financial planning with a professional to navigate the transition effectively and to help them understand their finances.
4. New Family Experiences: If the family includes children, trying to build new and positive experiences and memories, even amidst the challenges, can keep the holidays joyful. Focusing on quality time, whether it’s a special outing or a new holiday tradition, may reinforce their sense of security and love.
5. Family Dynamics and Support Systems: Divorce can shift family dynamics, but maintaining connections, when possible, assists with loneliness. If connections cannot be maintained, finding support groups and friend meet up activities are new ways to find emotional connections.
6. New Traditions and Celebrations: A change in family can be an opportunity to create new traditions that reflect your current family structure. This may help everyone, especially children, find joy in the holiday season while navigating the changes. While divorce is undoubtedly challenging, it can also pave the way for growth and new beginnings. This holiday season, focusing on healing, open communication, and support is a gift one can give to themselves.
